After working 50 plus hours for the last five years I was suddenly faced with a 7 week vacation, what ever was I going to do during those 7 weeks. As I was finishing my last day at work before my maternity leave started I told my boss that I would be back before the 7 weeks was up. I was thinking there is no way I can not work for 7 weeks, no possible way.
Then the day came where I became a mother to a beautiful baby boy, I could not get enough of him. The thought of work seemed so distance and the thought of returning seemed even farther away. Here I was someone who had been career oriented since the day I graduated college and now I was not wanting to return to work.
When the day came where I had to go back to work, I cried, I did not want to leave my son. My dreams seemed so far away and the ladder to becoming a CFO seemed to be falling. After the first day back I realized that I too can have my dreams and still be a great mother.
I am sure that I am not the only mother who has had to return from maternity and had the fear and anxiety in doing it. So my advice to mothers who have been in my situation is to allow yourself to grieve and process the emotions of separation, they are completely natural. Know you are not the only mom in the world who is wondering every minute how your child is or the only one calling every hour to make sure they are okay.
Set a timeframe for yourself to allow yourself to deal with change and feel the sadness separation can bring. Once you have reach your timeframe you are not allowed to feel sad anymore, know that to be a great mother you must have your own dreams. And know it will never be easy to leave your child it just becomes more bearable.
What are your experiences with having to go back to work? What helped? What made it harder? Share your thoughts!